Ok I have a player that I will call Bob. Bob has never opened a book and is running his character purely off of character builder print out. Bob is playing dnd with us mostly as a social thing to do, his investment in each gaming session is low. I have a list of people that would want Bob's spot in our group...
Bob has to make up a night class one week and leaves one hour into a session. He then returns at the very end of the night after everything is wrapped up. He complains that we are bull****/cleaning up for the last 20 minutes instead of playing more.
Bob has night class again and leaves 20 minutes into the session and doesn't return. I let Casey jump in to the game because the encounters and boss fight would have been to hard and Casey is a nice guy.
I text Bob if he has night class again? No response, Bob doesn't shop up for the next two sessions. The group (not just me) offer the spot to Casey.
I run into Bob last weekend and he says "Hey! I'll be able to come back to the game next week"... I respond with "What the hell man, I gave your spot away. You never contacted me." He gets whiny, I have to go and I'm not sure if the issue was resolved. He may try to show up at my game this week.
Now I know I didn't really try to get into contact with him that much but he didn't try to contact me either. He has my phone number and he actualy called me for a ride once while he was drunk at 3am (which I did). So I don't really feel bad. I might have been able to handle it better but the group is happier with Casey anyways.
He is a dnd friend not a friend that I play dnd with. /rant