Ok, this is going to sound mean but please bare with me.
We've recently started to play a new campaign of 4th Ed with four players. One of these four was a friendly aquaintance from work and sinse playing it turns out that one of the other players really doesn't like him, one isn't fond of him and the other isn't bothered. Since then I've grown tired of him (I won't go into details, it's one fo those situations where somebody is cool as long as you only see them once or twice a week but as soon as you start hanging out...) and on top of that I've had two other friends who want to join but have had a run in with this guy and don't like him either. (I wasn't aware of this when I arranged the game). I've encouraged the other friends to sit in on the next game but now I'm left with this problem.
I have a table of 7 playing D&D (including myself) 5 out of the 7 don't really want him there anymore (Including myself). On the other hand he doesn't realise what a tool he can be sometime and although he's stubborn enough to refuse to act any differently I still think he would be hurt if I suddenly discluded him from the table.
What am I supposed to do!?
The mature thing would be to talk to the guy and either talk to him about his behavior or tell him that it's not working out. That's also the hard thing, as the mature thing so often is.
Slightly less mature is to disband the group for a while, and then bring the people you do want to play with back together. Be prepared for the other guy to find out about this and feel hurt if you take this approach.
Bottom line: if you were the undesirable in this case, how would you want the others to handle it?
yep best thing to do is to sit this guy down, explain how you and the others feel, or if you prefer just how the others feel, and say that you have to go with the majority. Just say that the synergy in the group just isn't good and you can further explain with examples of situations where his behavior caused problems. Be honest, you owe the guy at least that.
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