...wants to put his "wood" in everything? What's a good way to deter my druid from wanting to shag every female NPC that walks along?
I've tried making them old, bitter, gossipy butter-churning maids. Didn't work.
I've tried pretty much saying "This woman was severely wounded in the fight you just had. You'd have to heal her". Didn't deter him.
Talk to him out of game about the type of game you want to run.
Roll Endurance vs disease. Was fun when it happened at our table. Admittedly we're kinda juvenile that way
Centauri's suggestion is probably best, though.
Just say "No, you don't," and move on.
If he insists, ask him what part of "no" he didn't understand and ignore his response.
If he continues to argue, sustain free.
If he causes a scene, invite him to drop it immediately or leave immediately.
If he leaves, continue playing without him.
If he asks to play again, insist that he apologize and make it clear that further behavior like that will not be tolerated, with the alternative being that he's out for good.
When I DM I don't allow sociopaths or the hopelessly immature to play in my games and that's my final answer. In cases like yours, saying "no, you don't," or "yeah, that doesn't happen," and moving on has worked well for me for the past thirty years. We have a lot of laughs in my games but if it moves into creepy territory I put the hammer down.
Agreed with Centauri. You explain unacceptable behaviour out of game. If he continues, move on to Siegfried's method.
It would be okay in my game within reason and in context.
If it's simply to disrupt the game, then talk to the player out of game as has been mentioned. If you yourself are a female, that's probably why he's doing these things in-game (projection).
Centauri and wrecan have the gist of it. I have to admit, my first impulsive answer was 'stop gaming with twelve-year-olds'.
Watch Dorkness Rising with him. Show him the guy playing the bard. Tell him he looks like that.
I often find this behavior is a defense mechanism. There's a sort of player who feels the need to be disruptive because part of him is simply embarassed to have fun playing D&D. I have a player right now. He could be phenomenal. He's a great improvisational actor and he has a natural strategic mind. But he insists on spending most of his time making bad puns and blue jokes.
I coulnd't figure out why he does it. He's always pulling people from the game, breaking serious moments with juvenile humor. And we're all in our 30's and 40's. My wife finally pegged it.
If he isn't making a joke, it means he's taking the story seriously. And that scares him. It's a level of geekiness that some part of him won't let him commit to. It's as if his subconscious is saying "It's okay that I play D&D because I don't take it seriously. I'm not like those other guys."
He isn't even cognizent of why he does it. I finally took him aside and told him that his antics at inappropriate moemnets were ruinign other people's fun. As soon as I made it not about him, but about his friends' enjoyment, he backed off. Now, instead of being disruptive during serious moments, he's just quiet, and I can tell he's doing it so his friends have a good time, and he's cognizent of that being the reason, so it preserves his ability to remain detached from the emotion of the game.
Sidenote: The group is now 27th level, and I asked everyone to come up with an epilogue for their PCs in case the world doesn't actually get destroyed (I give it a 40-60 shot right now.) He was the first one to come up with it and it was a really great epilogue. But it was in an email, not roleplay, so he could treat it as a writing assignment, not as if he was really getting into it. Apparently being an amateur J.R.R. Martin is preferable to being a tabletop LARPer.
To go along with Wrecan, I find it quite a bit easier to roleplay via PbP than I do in person or in a live online game. I wouldn't necessarily say that he treated it as a writing assignment (though it is possible); I tend to be a lot better at expressing ideas through paper than I do in person or in a live chat. For your (Wrecan's) player, I'd ask him to say the epilogue out loud as if he was the person giving a eulogy or something.
My group suffers from such problems all the time. A bard that doesn't pay attention, a druid laiden down with iron stuff so he can be randomly be the batman. A sorrcier that periodically dies every, single, damn sesson and a Warrior who constantly act like a complete Judas and knows relatively nothing. You know you have quite the party, when the Frenzied Bezerker is not only the most entertaining character in existance, but is also roleplayed the best. XD
Needless to say, serious DnD is very hard to do with this party, one way it's trying to be solved is through a mass e-mail, reminding people of the aims of the game.
I can understand the nerves though, I am the same, which is why I am not going to enjoy taking party leader role for the time being.
A love triangle might just break apart your group - it has happened before. Best of luck though! Do something before its too late, even if its not a love triangle.
Generally, when anyone at the table comes up with a "this is totally unacceptable to me", that means the other side needs to change. Nobody should be forced to play at a table where people are doing something unacceptable.
I'd agree with you if it were a case of "this is not really my preferred style of play", but in this situation it seems that the player is making others uncomfortable, which means he's automatically the one that needs to change (or the uncomfortable players need to leave) because asking someone to bite through uncomfortable situations just for someone else's entertainment shouldn't be part of the game.
(In this I'm assuming that the DM and the other players already agreed about the kind of game that will be run by the way. I disagree with the notion that "the DM decides the type of game on his/her own", but if anyone is truly uncomfortable with any kind of play, that kind of play needs to go)
Everyone has problem players. This is a little different, but I would be hesitant to go the route of revealing your "personal bias." This is unacceptable behavior no matter who is doing it, or who is DMing. Do not confront this player in a public setting with the other players present. That will only be successful in embarrassing him publicly and making him get defensive, but if you feel too uncomfortable confronting him alone do so with your boyfriend in earshot. If explaining that this is unacceptable behavior doesn't change his behavior make it clear that he will not be welcome in your group if it continues. Make it his choice whether he is welcome to play or not.
With the caveats that I loathe old-school cursed magic items, and that taking out a player's issues on his character is always a bad idea ...
If anybody ever had a Girdle of Femininity/Masculinity coming, it's this guy.
This one sound like a serrious problem at the table and should be fixed OOC. For more minor things that I as DM do not want to deal with here is my solution.
I want to go wenching in town and spread my some wealth around so I can be the center of an orgy.
Okay you do that. Gary what are you doing in town.
I find that my 4 word responce that does not involve any RP or other things and will have no impact on the game moves by the things I do not want to deal with quickly. Again I use this for more minor thing instead of what could be very large problem. I would no give him an STD or anything, that is indulging him and will eat up table time.
I have used the 4 word solution for all of the following
Barfights with 8th level+ characters
contact a thieves guild
assassinate for profit
Now any of these can be story hooks but if it is annoying or does not involve all the players then you get the 4 word answer.
Am I the only one who was releaved to learn the druid was only interested in NPCs?
Depending on context, it may be feasible to have this PC activity conveniently slid off-camera and allowed to happen. ***If**** you and the other players would be comfortable with that.
However, the PC probably did not begin acting like this when the party formed. It probably went on before that. Some combination of the following (again depending on context) could provide excitement:
* NPC's father
* NPC's husband
* NPC's lover/boyfriend/girlfriend
* NPC's *noble* father/husband/lover
* PC's ex-lover (prior NPC) seeking revenge
* PC's ex-lover seeking matrimony
* PC's wife wondering what her husband is up to
* PC's child seeking justice for mother
* PC's child seeking paternal legacy/inheritance
* PC's child seeking education (either directly or via payment of expenses)
* Authorities pursuing rape charges
* Authorities demanding child-support payments
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